Candle Lighting Guide

Most children tend to follow the traditional route of thirteen candles, but there is no reason that this “rule” has to be written in stone. Some families have opted for as few as three candles, and some have had as many as fifteen or sixteen. Some verses have been short, and some long. In other words, your child’s candle lighting can be as individual and unique, or as traditional, as he or she (or you) would like it to be.

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When you place your order I will send you a form to help you start thinking about which family members and friends you would like to honor in your candle lighting, and how to go about doing so.

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Keep in mind, this is only a guide to help you get started. Once you place your order and fill out my detailed form, I will supply you with some examples of ideas and format. When you have completed this form I will personalize your candle lighting to fit your needs. Of course, if you have any questions during this process, please feel free to e-mail me and ask away! I may email you several times as well if I need to clarify any details. Remember – the more specific you are, the more personal I can be when creating your one-of-a-kind candle lighting.

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Once your candle lighting is in the works, start thinking about which songs to include with each of your candles. As you are probably aware, most candle lighting ceremonies include a song with each candle – one that “goes along with” or describes the relationship of the honored recipient with the poem that is being read. If you are having trouble coming up with songs of your own for your candles, your band leader or DJ should provide you with a list of a wide variety of songs from which to choose.  And don’t forget you can find countless choices online as well.

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Finally, if there are any special circumstances – divorces, second marriages, step- kids, etc… please feel free to share that info with me. We can include everyone we need to so as not to “hurt anyone’s feelings.” It goes without saying that anything I’m told to help me write a better candle lighting for you is confidential.